It’s common to see lack of impulse control in dogs and small children. We all know an adult or two that suffers from it from time to time, too!
It is lack of impulse control that makes dogs rush headfirst into danger.
Uncontrolled dogs bowl people over in their enthusiasm to say hello, barge through doorways, and snatch food from your fingers.
All this is perfectly natural, especially with friendly, and greedy dogs. But, it is not a good thing.
Obedience training
One thing we can do is train a dog to respond to specific commands.
We can teach a dog to sit still in the car whilst we open the door by telling him to sit, or stay, or wait.
We can teach, “Leave it,” to tell a dog to back off and ‘not touch’ when you give the command.
And so on.
But this article is about a slightly different approach.
We can also teach dogs to control their impulses in specific situations, without the use of commands. We do this by creating default behaviors.
Teaching Default Behaviors
These are learned behaviors that the dog offers in response to specific situations, rather than in response to a signal from a person.
We can teach a dog that the only way to get through a door is to sit politely in front of it.
We can teach him that the only way to get someone to stroke him is to keep his feet firmly on the ground.
He can learn that the only way anyone will clip on his leash is if he stands quite still.
And the only way you will put his dinner bowl on the floor is if he sits and looks at you.
Using His Brain
A nice thing about default behaviors is that the dog is making his own decision, rather than being told what to do.
He is having to think, and use his brain. This is good mental exercise and helps him improve his learning skills.
He is learning that choosing calm and polite behaviors is more likely to get him what he wants.
And the more situations in which your dog learned to control his natural impulses, the easier he will find it to learn new ones.
Impulse control is something that dogs become better at with practice.
I’ll give you some examples below, and you can also find examples of this kind of training in the tips that I send out by email. Drop your address in the box below if you’d like to receive them
Here is an example of how to teach a default behavior to your dog.
Bad Behavior Before A Walk
Many dogs behave very badly when they think they are going for a walk.
They see the lead come out or hear the jingle of your car keys, and go to pieces.
Some dogs bounce up and down, or race around the house knocking things over. Others bark repeatedly or spin in silly circles while their owner tries unsuccessfully to get them to sit still.
Does your dog appears to be hysterical with excitement each time you leave the house?
If you have to wrestle him to the ground in order to clip on his lead, instead of giving commands he is never going to obey, try this little exercise.
Sit To Be Leashed
This is for owners of dogs that spin and/or bounce when they see their leash.
Do this exercise when you have at least an hour of spare time and know that you will not be interrupted.
Your aim at this point is to hold the leash in one hand and grasp the dog’s collar with the other, without him moving. But don’t touch him yet.
- Get out your dog’s lead and stand quite still, holding it in your hand.
- Now wait.
You are waiting for a pause. He can’t keep up the spinning or bouncing forever. Don’t talk to him, don’t give him any commands. Just wait. As soon as he pauses:
- Reach your other hand out towards him.
Off he will go, spinning or bouncing again. All you have to do is:
- Withdraw your hand and wait him out again.
Each time he stops, reach out your hand. Withdraw it as soon as he starts the behavior you don’t like.
A Warning
Things may get worse before they get better.
Be patient. The first time you do this it will take a while. In fact, the spinning and bouncing may be worse than ever for a while.
This is because the dog believes that the spinning and bouncing gets him a walk.
This is a perfectly reasonable assumption on his part.
So when you behave strangely and refuse to put on his lead, he may spin and bounce harder to begin with.
Eureka!
Sooner than you think, your clever dog will have a “Eureka!” moment.
“This isn’t working,” he will say to himself.
And he will try something different. He might fetch you a shoe. Or his dinner bowl. Just ignore him and wait.
Each time he becomes calm, stretch out your hand. You will soon be able to touch his collar and hold on to him. When you can do this without him getting excited:
- Clip the lead on his collar and reward him.
Having the lead on is in itself rewarding. You can make it more so. The extra reward can be food or the walk he was hoping for. He just needs to know that standing still is what works.
When this happens, you have made a major breakthrough.
From now on, it all gets easier.
New Standards
Repeat this little training session as many times as you can over the next few days, and make a commitment to these new standards.
From now on, never clip a lead on to your dog until he is standing quietly. You can wait for him to sit if you want to, but standing still is fine.
Be patient and practice
It takes more than one session to make permanent changes to your dog’s behavior. So you’ll need to practice this – several times a day is ideal.
In the meantime, never let anyone else clip a lead on to your dog until he is standing quietly.
You want the dog to have no doubt that standing still is what gets him a walk.
And he needs to know that from now on, you will not attach a lead to his collar under any other circumstances.
Door barging
You can use the same exercise for a door-barging dog. Hold your hand on the door and wait for the dog to back away.
Don’t start to turn the handle until the dog has backed away from the door.
If the dog rushes forwards release your grip on the handle and wait. As soon as he backs away, grasp the handle again and slowly start to turn it.
In fact, you can apply these principles to many other behaviors you want to eradicate and replace with a different behavior.
There are no complications, no commands, no talking. Just wait the dog out.
Control
This kind of learning not only teaches your dog to control himself. It teaches him that he can control some of your actions too.
If he behaves politely, he can make you give him what he wants. If he doesn’t behave politely he gets nothing.
Modern dog training teaches dogs how to figure out the best way to please you. And you’ll find more exercises like these in our online dog training courses.
Teaching your dog good impulse control is brilliant preparation for a great training relationship between the two of you.
The Extinction Burst
Remember that the dog may escalate the bad behavior before it gets better. If something, that worked before, stops working most animals will try harder for a while before giving up.
The correct term for this is an ‘extinction burst’ – it’s what happens just before bad behaviors become extinct.
Pick Your Default
Choose one impulsive behavior that you don’t like in your dog, and plan how you can reward him for choosing a better alternative.
Remember, you are not going to teach him a command, but you’ll control access to what he wants, until you get the behavior from him, that you want.
You can do it! Give it a go, and let us know how you get on!
‘Impulse Control For Dogs’ was written by Pippa Mattinson, best selling author of Total Recall and The Happy Puppy Handbook, and the founder of the Dogsnet Training Program
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Hi Pippa,
Thanks for this 😊 It has successfully worked with Juno for getting her leash on going out the door.
Can you suggest how I successfully stop her from leash wrangling at the end of an exercise session to come back in to the house please? ( she’s on a long line as my garden is very big) She’s a 4 month GSD and very reactive.
Thank you!
Kate
Hi Pippa
Great advise thank you! Will definitely use this on my 4 month Working Cocker!
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Thanks Paula x
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